New Year, New Mindset: No More Half-Assed Resolutions

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Before I get started, let it be known that I’m well-aware of what an eye-roller setting New Years resolutions can be. If you’re not the type to enjoy resolutions, people like me probably sound like a broken record. And in all honesty, I don’t blame you! From an outside perspective, resolutions can seem like all talk with no action. It’s a common pattern for many to proclaim, “New year, new me,” yet fall back into their usual habits within a month or two. It makes sense that resolutions would seem like a waste of time.

However, if you plan for and apply your resolutions, the results can be life-changing. And just because there’s a chance you may not stick with something isn’t a valid reason to not try! Personally, I’d rather continue trying and possibly fail than completely give up – especially if it’s something I continue to feel strongly about wanting. The key with making the most of your New Year is the mindset you choose to go into it with.

New Year, Same You – Only Better.

Just because it’s a new year doesn’t mean you’re suddenly a new person. To be successful, you have to actually shift your mindset and apply consistent action as needed. Open yourself up to new ways of thinking. As Einstein once said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them.” If you’re going for your goals with the same thoughts and habits as you’ve always had, chances are you’re not going to change a dang thing.

With that being said, do you want to start this new year with focused intentions that are guaranteed to last? Coming up are some of the questions and practices I applied in 2018 that made a huge difference in bringing lasting change & improvement to my life!

Although I’m not using this Law of Attraction planner for 2019, I loved the worksheets it included as I used it in 2018. The questions each page asked pushed me to truly think about what I wanted out of life and what I wanted to prioritize most. Never before had I started a year with such focus and motivation! If you are still in need of a new planner for the new year, I highly recommend purchasing it – but if not, below are some of the key points and questions that helped me most.

Make a list of everything you’d love to accomplish or do.

Don’t sell yourself short with this step. Disregard the money, time, and other details that these dreams entail. If this is something you truly want, you are limitless in your ability to find a way to make it work! Even if this is something you’ve tried for over and over, don’t let that discourage you; if anything, that’s even more reason to go for it again. If absolutely nothing could stop you – including yourself – what would you want for your life? List as many as you can think of so you can look through them in the next step.

Now choose 3-5 items from that list that you want the most.

I pride myself at multitasking, as I’m sure a lot of us do. But if we’re constantly doing a little bit here and a little bit there, we’re not actually finishing anything. We’re either just making tiny bits of progress on everything, or we’re too distracted to make any progress at all. For some people multitasking may work, but for me, it leaves me spread thin and plain tired. By choosing 3-5 goals, you can focus all of your time and energy towards them – guaranteeing a more realistic chance of consistent action. Then, as you accomplish whatever you’ve intended to do, you can move on to another item on your longer list – it’s all about prioritizing!

Ask yourself why you picked these 3-5 items.

Why do you want to achieve these goals? If the reason is anything less than passionate, there’s a chance you won’t have the determination to see it through – and I say that from my own experience.

Sometimes we’re so focused on the to-do lists that we forget why we’re doing them in the first place. You need to have a compelling enough reason for why you want this to help get you through the hard times where it’s not so easy to do those to-do items. I’d recommend taking time to think this through and write/type it out as a reminder for yourself later. Even if you never look back at it, there’s something very affirming to put your “why” in physical form rather than keep it as just a thought in your head.

Envision how your life will be once you reach these resolutions.

Similarly to thinking about why you want this, you want to have a solid vision of how you want to feel. Obviously you want to do whatever this is because of the end result. If you reached that end goal, how would your life be better? Put yourself in the shoes of your future self and try to really feel how good it would feel! I’m probably just a nerd, but I like to think of it as soaking in a cozy, happy daydream for a bit – plus it’s productive. Doing this gives you that compelling, exciting feeling for continuing forth when things get tough. If you want to learn more about the power of visualization, check out this blog post I wrote about it.

Tackle your fears and distractions.

There’s a reason these goals of yours haven’t played out in the past…Fears and distractions tend to hold us back from being our best selves. By identifying your limiting beliefs about yourself and what’s getting you off track, you can set yourself up for success. More importantly than success, though, doing this will give you the mental and emotional freedom to create and live a life you love.

So think about it. What are you afraid of that holds you back? What distractions take up way too much of your time and energy? It’s easy to simply think about it and move on – but I’d like to challenge you to do more by writing these down. Then, rewrite them in a more productive and energizing way. How can you reframe these limiting beliefs of yourself? And how can you do things differently to avoid or lessen those distractions? Acknowledging and working through these head-on will better ensure they aren’t an issue with this new year.

Lay a solid foundation for your life with healthy habits.

I’ve talked about my love for healthy habits in the past, and it’s because they provide you with the stability to function at your best. You can have all of best intentions in the world, but if you don’t have the fuel to drive you forward with them, what good are they? Everyone is different in what helps them thrive most, so try to pay closer attention to how you feel on a regular basis. What foods make you feel better, and how much water are you drinking? Do you need to move more? Taking a quick inventory of how you’re taking care of yourself is always a sure way to support your success.

Pace yourself & seek out regular motivation.

First off, remember you can’t do all of this at once. Part of the reason starting a new venture can be so overwhelming is that there’s just so much to do to get to where you want to be. And that’s okay! Honestly, all of the steps and to-do’s along the way to your end goal is the good stuff. All of it helps you grow and really become the person you’re wanting to be. Especially if you’re wanting this to be a lifestyle change, you want to be able to make peace with the process. The “end goal” is never really an actual end, so learn to find joy in the journey!

Also, remember that even if you don’t succeed at this goal within a certain time frame, you still made progress. Moving towards an end goal at least is moving more forward than if we aimlessly meandered through our days. Always be patient with yourself and take time to pride yourself on any small amount of progress you’ve made.

Cheers to your new year!

So how’s it gonna be? What are some things you’d love for this new year of life ahead of you? Or maybe you’re dreaming big and you can’t possibly reach that dream within a year – so what can you do in the meantime to make steps in that direction? The fun thing about life is that it’s entirely up to us how we choose to live it. We may not be able to control our external circumstances, but it’s entirely up to us how we choose to react and move forward with it all. How will you choose to start this new year of your life?